Fri-Endship

Friendship is the only relationship apart from a spouse which we get to choose and not by someone else(again, spouse in many cases, still selected by parents).School & College are the most critical phases of life where friendship is groomed and may get promoted to life-partner or life-long friendship.What I would like to discuss is the phase of friendship after school, college life as well as after marriage of one of the friend.May be one of the friend goes for further studies or joins the company out of country and gets busy with his/her life.

When two friends depart in distance,it is quite natural that the communication between them keeps on reducing.What used to be a daily call reduces to weekly calls and then to chatting online once in a month.The same applies to the friend who gets married.This weakens the closeness between them and may result in breaking of friendship.What one has to understand is that as life moves on, everyone's priority changes and you can't expect the person to be the same one as he/she used to be during college time.

Here, I would like to cite the changes before and after college life, sarcastically made by one of my very good friend and slightly modified by me:

What used to be 'Friends Forever' turns out to be 'Friends whatever'....

At this time, friends need to understand the priorities of each other and should not hold grudges against each other or should not let it affect the friendship which they have savored for years.Give each other space.In this busy world, everyone gets bogged down in their life that they can't give quality time to their friends what they used to give during college or before the marriage.If your friend is avoiding you or not able to meet you, what you should do ? whether to understand your friend's condition or think of doing the same thing (taking soft revenge) when your friend tries to contact you to show that 'you also can get busy'...Apne Mann ki suno...

Mann-tal Confusion - Why is it that when you tell a man that there are 400 billion stars he will believe you, butwhen you tell him there's wet paint he has to touch it?